Paula Thompson
Personal Stress and Anxiety
Firstly and most importantly, please remember that the way you feel now, is you in this moment in time, it doesn't mean that this is how you will feel forever. Unless of course, you choose to.
In my wealth of experience I can say that in the vast majority of cases, other people have put you into this state of high stress or anxiety. You may have passively allowed it or even been unaware of its development, but now you are here, you will need help to break free.
This is where I come in, I will help you to understand the why's and how's which is a key part to regaining your life, self confidence and enjoyment of living again.
I will help you to understand, and control your stress. Show you how to recognise your triggers and how to overcome their negative influences. Often they're not what you think they are and what you believe is causing your stress is related to the actual cause.
Your reactions are your body's coping mechanisms kicking in, commonly known as "fight or flight" response. It is completely normal to have stress in your life, in fact we need it to make us function day to day.
This normal stress should be low level and normalise relatively quickly, high levels of stress tend to be created in emergency situations, a simple example would be, 'if you were driving along minding your own business and a child was to run out in front of your car'. Your instinctive reaction is to slam the brakes on, you don't have to think about it, you just do it.
This is your body's reaction to sudden danger, your body is amazing isn't it! Another one would be 'if someone went to strike you', you would raise your arms and cower away. Another automatic response that you do without thinking about it.
This heightened state should not be long term as prolonged the very action of flooding your system with high levels of adrenaline and cortisol can become harmful. Might sound daft but actually is similar to overdosing on medication. The correct amount can cure or alleviate the problem, but taking too much is potential harmful. If you don't deal with your stress the common process is;
Stress - Anxiety - Depression
Many of my clients would agree that taking the first step is the is the hardest part. Once they've started the process the burden starts to lift, and the realisation starts to set in that they can feel good about themselves.
This is so rewarding and why I do what I do.
3 Top Tips
1 Find the right help for you, it really isn't a one size fits all.
Many of my clients have a history of unsuccessful help and support. Either they haven't clicked with the therapist or their methods haven't suited the individual.
2 Be open to the challenges of regaining control.
You will probably go through emotional phases that are hard to deal with but the rewards will be well worth it.
3 This is the harsh bit, "Stop being happy to be the Victim".
This can become your comfort blanket. You've become so used to feeling like this that you expect to be treated this way, you expect to have these feelings. You may even view it as your fault, "it's always been like it so I must deserve it", you don't!
It's time to push back, time to draw a line and move on. I can help, the initial get to know me session is free, so you have nothing to lose.